You’re too short, too tall, too weird, too geeky, too feminine, too manly… the list goes on. At some point, someone has pointed out a difference to you from themselves.
We all have things that don’t fit the “norm”. Some wear that as a badge of honour, some bury it deep down, but we all have our own version of ‘weird’.
First things first, there is no such thing as normal. There is only a limit that we place on ourselves. Seriously, let’s look at the definition of normal:
1. Conforming to a standard; usual, typical, or expected.
It’s a self-enforced pattern of behaviour. If you don’t believe me look up the definition of conforming too.
Why is this important? Well, we live in a world where difference is always highlighted, sometimes is a positive light, and sometimes our differences are seen negatively. Not just big differences, small things are picked up on too, your hairstyle, your clothes, your way of thinking entirely can be judged and feared.
Don’t forget you can always find places where all those things are celebrated too.
I think we need to do more celebrating, what makes your “weird” a good thing?
Perhaps you have a talent that’s considered weird, a different way of thinking that’s “weird” but it solves a problem, or your weird just makes you a happier person.
The biggest obstacle in our own dreams and wants in life is our own limitations we place on ourselves. It’s not easy to stand up and defend what you believe in, as it’s easy for others to judge and comment on what you think, even more so in the modern age of social media.
What I’d like to say to you all though is be true to yourself.
Who are you really being if you’re not being true to yourself?
Who will have to live with the choices and limits you place upon yourself?
You might be thinking so what, I’m going through the motions of life, go to school, get a job, get a family, retire and done. I don’t want to be weird, to stand out. Why not? Life does go in one direction generally, beginning to end that is true, but don’t let those bits in between go by you so quickly.
Do you really want to look back over the last 5 years of your life and realise you’re not really doing what makes you happy? How about 10 years? Or 50? How much time do you have left? Nobody knows this, so why not embrace your weird today.
Don’t waste any more time not being your full self.
So, what are you supposed to do? You tell me. I’m not writing this to tell you what to do, or what your weird is, I’m writing this to say don’t be afraid of doing what you dream of. If you want to do something that makes you happy and doesn’t break any laws, then I say do it.
Yes, I know it can be scary and fear and judgement will always be your biggest obstacle, but my father has a saying ‘If you want something badly enough you will find a way to get there’. Live your life for you. Embrace your weird, take a risk and maybe it will change your life. You are the controller in your own life, don’t let someone else tell you what you should be doing.